So with every pregnancy there comes a time where the new mom thinks she’s in labor.
Ok this is it we’re having a baby! Only to be told by the doctor nope, not yet. These are just “False Contractions”. Well who knew it was true of adoption too?!?
We got all our paperwork completed, every “t” crossed every perfect blue “i” dotted and submitted by late October. We had hopes of traveling for our first trip around Christmas and being able to celebrate our daughter’s sweet 16 with her in her country. By mid November we felt sure we would not be able to travel until after Christmas so we pulled together enough money to host our girl one more time before she was “officially ours”. This would be a bitter sweet hosting.
During this waiting period we were told again that yes indeed there is a little brother but again he is NOT available for adoption. We moved forward with celebrating Christmas with our girl. She had began to get more comfortable with us. Calling us mom and dad. Telling us a little more “special” things about her life. We enjoyed our time with her all while holding our breath that our documents would be accepted and we could begin the process in Ukraine to finalize our adoption.
The day after Christmas we received a crushing blow. We had stopped to pick up a few things at the store. I had waited in the car to just have a moment to breath and be alone. My phone rang. It was our adoption agent. I answered with excitement. “Tell me we have a travel date!” But that was not what my agent had called to tell me. She slowly answered, “I’m so sorry. But your documents have been rejected.” Tears filled my eyes. I felt my face flush. I don’t understand, why? We did everything to the letter. I was mad, sad, devastated and every other emotion all at once. The only answer she could give me was “they changed some of the rules and you are the first example they are making.”
My husband came out to find me in a puddle of tears and I told him the news. We sat in silence for a while and after some more tears and time we drove home. Now, we had to tell our girl. She didn’t fully understand, but we tried to assure her we were still coming for her just not on the schedule we had hoped for. I saw doubt fill her eyes and we watched her “put her walls back up”. Deep sigh. Not the holiday we wanted. Needless to say putting her back on the plane after hosting was extremely painful.
So what now? Well we started over with several documents. We had to re-do fingerprints, physicals, and a lot of signatures. Another trip to Raleigh to make it all official and then we waited to submit our papers one more time. This would put us at the end of January as many of the offices we needed were closed for holidays.
That was a painful “false contraction”…